Category: Community

07/21/2019: SpiritRest Silent Retreat

SpiritRest is a facilitated five-day silent retreat for Unitarian
Universalists and other spiritual seekers. Our 2019 gathering will be July 21-26 in Rancho Palos Verdes, CA. This retreat is led by UU ministers Sharon Wylie, Arvid Straube, Stefanie Etzbach-Dale, and Lucy Bunch.

Retreatants meet with a spiritual director for a half hour each day. In addition to the practice of silence, there is guidance for meditation, labyrinth walks, prayer, art journaling, Qi gong, and InterPlay. There is also time for singing together. Each day closes with a vespers service at sundown.

Learn more at our website

Rev. Sharon Wylie

07/08/2019: Second Friday Film Series POSTPONED!!

KUUF’s Second Friday Film Series for July—“Under the Bridge”—has been POSTPONED in order that people can stand in solidarity ON THE BRIDGE.   This is part of a nationwide “Lights for Liberty” protest of the situation and conditions at the camps on our southern border. We will show “Under the Bridge” on the second Friday in August.  Please join us ON THE east side of the Manette BRIDGE at 7 pm this Friday.   Together we stand, and together we are stonger!

07/05/02019: Concerts in the Barn

Concerts in the Barn is delighted to announce its third season of free chamber music concerts held in its iconic barn in Quilcene, WA. This year, the season begins on Friday, July 5th, and continues each weekend through July 21st

As in previous years, all concerts are free to the public—no tickets are required. The farm opens to visitors at noon each concert day. At 1 p.m., the barn doors open so that patrons can reserve their seats, either on comfortable pews or hay bales in the loft. Concerts begin at 2 p.m.

This year, Concerts in the Barn features the Carpe Diem String Quartet, of which The Washington Post recently wrote, “among these contemporary quartets…the Carpe Diem is the best one out there.” 

Two members of the musical ensemble are well-known to patrons who have been coming to the farm for a decade or more—first violinist Charles Wetherbee and violist Korine Fujiwara. Joining them are second violinist Marisa Ishikawa and Gregory Sauer, cellist. 

On Friday, July 5th, renowned mandolinist/composer Jeff Midkiff will join the Quartet to perform traditional folk and fiddling tunes as well as original compositions featured on Midkiff’s Gold Prize-winning CD, “Run for Your Life.” 

On Saturday and Sunday, July 6th and 7th, the Carpe Diem and Midkiff will perform Midkiff’s string quintet, “Gypsy,” commissioned by the quartet, as well as music composed by violist Korine Fujiwara, inspired by her beloved home, Montana. To round off this all-American weekend, the Quartet also will perform Samuel Barber’s beloved American string quartet.

Midkiff and the Carpe Diem have performed together before, most recently in Carnegie Hall, which The New York Times described as “a fiery and flexible performance that was astonishingly free…”

Over the next two weekends, the Carpe Diem will perform an intriguing medley of chamber music that spans several continents. On July 13-14, the Quartet will perform the breathtaking works of Finnish composer Rautavaara and Norwegian composer Edvard Grieg (interspersed with a Haydn quartet), and on June 20-21, the Quartet takes on the momentous works of Shostakovich and Tchaikovsky, two Russian giants in the composing world—with a romantic interlude of a Mendelssohn quartet twixt these giant opuses. 

For the past 35 years, thousands of concertgoers have flocked to the farm—now known as Trillium Woods Farm—to hear the world’s greatest chamber music musicians perform the world’s greatest chamber music in this distinctly pastoral setting. Concertgoers can sit inside the barn on comfortable pews or hay bales in the loft, or outside on the knoll, where music is aired outside. Families are warmly welcomed. This is a great opportunity to introduce children to chamber music, while they explore the farm. Patrons with mobility issues are encouraged to call the festival office at (360) 732-0732 to make sure their needs will be easily accommodated.

Trillium Woods Farm owners Alan Iglitzin and Leigh Hearon encourage people to come early, pack a picnic, and enjoy the farm environs before the music begins. Inside the milking shed, patrons can purchase cider from Finnriver Cidery and wines from Joe Euro’s The Wine Seller. Profits from all these beverages will go to fund Jefferson Youth and Music groups. Free bottled water also is available.

“We can’t wait for the season to begin,” says Alan Iglitzin, the founder of the Olympic Music Festival and Concerts in the Barn. “It’s always such a joy to greet our old friends who have been coming here for years and to make new friends, too.”

For more information, please go to or call (360) 732-0732.

Please pass this email along to your friends and anyone you think might be interested in attending. We hope you have a wonderful 4th of July—and look forward to seeing you at the farm next weekend!

With warmest regards,
Alan & Leigh

07/03/2019: Notes From the Minister

Happy July! I have returned from the General Assembly in Spokane and am filled with new ideas and enthusiasm for our faith! I look forward to sharing some of that with you this Sunday, as I preach on “The Power of We”, which was the theme for GA this year, an inspiring and challenging topic. How can Unitarian Universalists work together to serve our world? And what do we mean by “we”? There were many answers to this 
As we enter the month of July we enter the slowest time of the year for congregational life. The warm weather and long days become the norm (mostly!) and hopefully, we all get a chance to spend some time outdoors enjoying the sunshine. It is such a thrill to watch the earth burst forth with its abundance this month, to walk through the farmers market marveling at the stalls of fresh produce and sample the tastes of summer. 
I am taking two trips this month, one for a week-long family vacation to Southern California and one to teach at a multi-faith family camp in Idaho. I will be gone July 9-15 as well as July 28-Aug 3. If you email me during those times, please know it might take me some time to reply. In case of emergency, Tanesha and the board presidents all have my cell number and can reach me at a moment’s notice.
This month I am also leading our Children’s Chalice Camp, which is meeting July 16th and July 18th from 9-12. Everyone is welcome to attend! The morning will be fun and games and learning, and then we will be gathering at noon for a potluck. The best part of the potluck is that our congregational elders will be in attendance! As we endeavor to make stronger connections across the generations. And of course, if you and your child would like to attend, you can RSVP to me at
Many blessings on a joyous July. May the sun shine on your shoulders! And may you experience the abundance of summer.
Rev. Jessica

06/17/2019: Parish Nurse Summer Update

Hello friends,

I hope the warm weather finds you all well. It’s been a little while since I’ve checked in with everyone, and I wanted to share a few updates, reminders, and thoughts.

-I have now met with 7 members to help them complete advanced directives (documents that outline what choices you would like made at end-of-life, or in the event that you cannot make your own wishes clear). I would love to help more of you with these documents. I keep packets; free of charge, with several types of these documents at the fellowship, and am available to meet at your convenience to help you complete them if that is helpful.

-Death with Dignity. As mentioned in a previous edition of the Candle, our Fellowship is initiating conversations around Death with Dignity. This is the initiation of an ongoing discussion, but I want to make myself available in case anyone is unable to attend any of the open forums or has questions they might like to ask privately via email. I’m happy to help.

-Due to scheduling conflicts, the CPR class will be offered later in the year, more info to come as the summer progresses. 

-A phone number to save. Last month I got a call late at night from a relative who had mistakenly taken the wrong dose of at least one medication. I encouraged her to call Poison Control, who were immediately available and helpful. This reminded me that we often assume that Poison Control is something that the parents of young children need, but in reality is a number that we should all have. Anyone can make a mistake with dosing a medication when tired or ill, or misread a label. So, my safety share for the month is to encourage you to save the Poison Control number in your mobile phone, or write the number by your landline. 1-800-222-1222

-Lastly, please remember to hydrate and protect yourself from the sun when enjoying our lovely weather. I look forward to seeing all of you soon.

In care,

Jennifer Ingalls, RN

06/13/2019: Women’s book list for 2019/2020

2019-2020 FINAL Book Club Selections

JULY 8 – Nancy – Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver

          Many copies available

AUGUST 12 – Florrie – Barracoon: the Story of the Last ‘Black Cargo’ by Zora Neal Hurston

          9 copies, 1 audio at KRL, many awards

SEPTEMBER 9 – Helen – The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes the World by Melinda Gates co-chair of Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation

          10 copies KRL

OCTOBER 14 – Phyllis – Overcoming by Michelle Obama

          50+ copies and electronic KRL

NOVEMBER 11 – Lene – Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult

          18 copies and electronics KRL

JANUARY 13 – Carolee – Pachinko by Min Jin Lee

          8 copies, 3 large print and 1 audio KRL

FEBRUARY 10 – Nicki – The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane by Lisa See  

          9 copies and electronic KRL

MARCH 9 – Jean – Upheaval: Turning Points for Nations in Crisis by Jared Diamond

          6 copies KRL

APRIL 13 – Jill – The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty 

          3 copies and electronic KRL

MAY 11 – Ruth – Educated: a Memoir by Tara Westover

          Dozens of KRL copies


  1. Check the library copies long before you need to read the book so you can place a hold if needed. Attached to this email is a list of the icons you will see next to each book type when you search – make sure you are looking at the correct book version, i.e. Eaudiobook versus Standard book, etc. before you put a hold or check it out.
  • Take notes if you read the book early so you can discuss it fully.

06/13/2019: Note from the Minister

Happy summer!  I am still smiling from the joyous flower ceremony we shared this past Sunday. Thank you, everyone! My favorite moment was when we raised our flowers above our heads. From the pulpit, it truly looked like a beautiful garden. And a special thank you to Mike and the choir, who switched their schedule so they could be a part of the service. What a blessing it was to be together.

Following the service, we had a wonderful discussion hosted by Children’s Religious Exploration committee. Folks from across the lifespan were in attendance and brought their ideas and enthusiasm. We talked about CRE and the future of Sunday school, and especially how much our kids love their time with Jenell. We also identified a desire among the congregation as a whole to have more intentionally intergenerational events. There were lots of wonderful ideas about how we might make this happen. For instance: Fourth Friday Fun Nights! These will occur at 6 pm on the fourth Friday of every month. Stay tuned for details!

One of the fun summer events coming up is the mini-chalice camp that I am offering on Tuesday, July 16 and Thursday, July 18, from 9-12. We will sing camp songs and play games and learn about Unitarian Universalism. And we will end the day with a potluck lunch in the sunshine. All ages are welcome! If you are under 14, bring a parent or guardian. And if you are over 14 (and even just want to come for the potluck lunch) please join us!  We’d love to have you.

And don’t forget to save the date for August 24th, which is the annual end-of-summer potluck hosted by the Wilsons at their lovely home. Keep an eye out in the Candle for more details about that as well.

Summer tends to get a little bit quiet at UU congregations, and I have a couple of weeks here and there where I will be away. But mostly I will be keeping my regular hours. If you’d like me to come and visit one some lazy summer afternoon, send me an email or give me a call. I’ll bring the lemonade.

Many blessings on a beautiful summer!
Rev. Jessica  

05/30/2019: Presidents Column

Welcome to your first “Notes from the President” column of the new church year.  Except that now it’s “Notes from the Co-Presidents”, as Terry Mallory and I will be sharing the role until April of 2020.  How will having two co-presidents be different?  Truthfully, we don’t really know, but in Reverend Jessica’s spirit of Shared Ministry, we both feel that collaboration and drawing on each others’ strengths is a very positive step in leading our board and our beloved community.

This is a rich and exciting time for our Fellowship.  We have a committed minister, who brings youth, wisdom, and inspiration, and we have her for the next two years!  We have a congregation that is solidly behind her.  We have a council of incredibly dedicated committee chairs who have given and continue to give insightful leadership to the diverse work we need to do.  We have a vibrant music program.  We have a growing membership, and we’re seeing more children in our Sunday services.  We are a solid liberal voice in our greater community, with a congregation that stands together on issues of social justice.

I feel so blessed to be here, and I look to the coming year with excitement about what we can give to a world that is hurting.  It is often too easy to despair about the state of our environment, our nation, and our world.  Yet when I look at the many small steps KUUF is taking that truly make a difference in the lives of real people, I am so proud to be part of Kitsap Unitarian Universalist Fellowship.  Thank you all for being part of our journey.


This is a positive and exciting time for the fellowship.  I look forward to sharing board leadership with Lisa, and to working with Rev Jessica.  

There will be opportunities and challenges, and it is my hope that we can approach both with transparency and love.  

Thank you for trusting us with this responsibility.



You may not be 100% right?     (Curious?  Come check it out.)

Speaker – Marcia Christen   

Humans are “wired” to judge, criticize and make assumptions.  If this is the case then how do we USE that judgment that is built into our brains for us to survive, in a more discerning way, in a way that really works? Especially when standing up to “wrongs” that have such tragic consequences. 

We’ll grapple with the idea of being “nonjudgmental” and how we can actually have a different relationship with our judgments of right and wrong AND still act for justice, speak truth in love, and care for the inherent worth of all beings, including ourselves.

With specific exercises we’ll learn steps of what to do with our “negativity bias” – noticing what’s wrong more often than noticing what works, explore the importance of becoming aware of our judgments  and learn how to switch from moralistic judgment (strict right/wrong), to Value-Based judgment – are needs being served?

Marcia Christen will be sharing from her experience teaching and sharing Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness in the first places she began to teach – in the state prisons. She’ll share what she has learned so far and how you might take this learning into your own life and your own ministry, whatever that is.

Marcia is a Certified Trainer with the International Center for Nonviolent Communication.  Before that, she was a Parent Educator, trained in sociology and psychology.

05/05/2019: Truth Quest Book Group

The Truth Quest Book Group will meet on Sunday, May 5th 9:30 am-10:30 am in the Library at KUUF. We will be finishing our discussion of Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuvai Noah Harari. You are welcome to join us to discuss or listen to people’s thoughts on and reactions to this ambitious and multifaceted (archaeological, anthropological, historical look at the history of humankind, with an emphasis on our species of homo sapiens.  

05/02/2019: President’s Column May 2019

Hello KUUF members and friends. It’s May and must mean that summer is just around the corner. We are starting out this month with a flurry of things all happening on the 5th of May – a real Cinco de Mayo celebration. We will celebrate the signing of a two-year Consulting Minister contract (half-time) with our own Rev. Jessica Star Rockers, which will keep her here with us until 2021!

Following the signing Rev. Jessica will lead all that are able up the hill to re-hang a Black Lives Matter banner. Our last banner was vandalized by cutting out the word Black. Re-establishing our banner is a Social Justice commitment and we’re excited that our minister will be leading our demonstration of resolve for this movement.

Finally, Buildings and Grounds will be conducting a work party on the 5th so I hope we all bring our coveralls and pitch in. You may know that we no longer have a property maintenance employee, so upkeep of our campus falls on all of us…plus it’s a nice way to share time with friends – Bonus!

I specifically want to thank everyone that helped me in my position as board president over the past two years. Normally it’s a one-year obligation but due to our friend Jim Franklin’s health challenges, I remained on for a second year. Jim continues to make progress and it’s a joy to see him attending on a regular basis.

Together we have accomplished a great deal of business over the past two years. Serving as board president has opened my eyes to the complexity and scope of activities that occur at KUUF. Our employees are fantastic, and our committee chairs and members are skilled and inspirational. Our board is committed to doing the work of running the business side of our fellowship with help from our dedicated congregational administrator, and our members and friends have been picking up everything else that needs to be done.

So, it’s with a deep amount of admiration for all of you that I step down as board president and assume a supporting role on the board while others learn to navigate the senior board positions. Working as the board president has certainly taken me out of my comfort zone from time-to-time and provided many opportunities to learn how to work with people in a cooperative way. Sometimes my passion was not my biggest asset, but I don’t think anyone would say I didn’t try to the best of my ability.

I remain dedicated to you all. I will be away for three months this summer but look forward to returning in September and digging in again on whatever I can do. Have a great summer and I’ll see you all this fall. We are KUUF!

Eric Harrold

KUUF Board President