Category: Adult Religious Exploration


You may not be 100% right?     (Curious?  Come check it out.)

Speaker – Marcia Christen   

Humans are “wired” to judge, criticize and make assumptions.  If this is the case then how do we USE that judgment that is built into our brains for us to survive, in a more discerning way, in a way that really works? Especially when standing up to “wrongs” that have such tragic consequences. 

We’ll grapple with the idea of being “nonjudgmental” and how we can actually have a different relationship with our judgments of right and wrong AND still act for justice, speak truth in love, and care for the inherent worth of all beings, including ourselves.

With specific exercises we’ll learn steps of what to do with our “negativity bias” – noticing what’s wrong more often than noticing what works, explore the importance of becoming aware of our judgments  and learn how to switch from moralistic judgment (strict right/wrong), to Value-Based judgment – are needs being served?

Marcia Christen will be sharing from her experience teaching and sharing Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness in the first places she began to teach – in the state prisons. She’ll share what she has learned so far and how you might take this learning into your own life and your own ministry, whatever that is.

Marcia is a Certified Trainer with the International Center for Nonviolent Communication.  Before that, she was a Parent Educator, trained in sociology and psychology.

03/25/2018: UUA Common Read Discussion: Daring Democracy

Sunday, 12:00pm, KUUF, Admin Room – Join UUs nationwide in reading and discussing Daring Democracy: Igniting Power, Meaning, and Connection for the America We Want, by Frances Moore Lappe and Adam Eichen (Beacon Press, 2017), selected as one of two books for the Unitarian Universalist Association’s 2017-18 Common Read. Your Adult Religious Education Committee will lead the discussion.

12/01/2017: A new KUUF spiritual practice group

Sundays, 9: am, KUUF Elmore Room

We have a new group called the Ongo group (for ongoing practice). They want to meet at 9:00 am-10:30 am Sundays from Oct 15th for 12 weeks, except holidays. So, for now, it would be Oct 15th, 22, 29, Nov 5, 12, 19, Dec 3, 10, 17, Jan 7, 14, 21. They would like to use the Elmore room, and when its already being used by the Truth Quest Book, they could move to the minister’s office.

Information session re: NVC, Meditation, and Mindfulness practice group A new KUUF spiritual practice

group using “The Ongo Book”

Come see if this is a group for you

The Ongo Book was written by Jesse Wiens and Catherine Cadden to address a need they saw in their work training people in Nonviolent Communication, Zen meditation, and loving kindness.  They realized that the support of others is often key to establishing a regular practice of Zen or Nonviolent Communication.

The Ongo (ongoing practice) Book offers clear, easy-to-follow, step-by-step guidance so that people can self-organize their own Ongo training, with their friends, without having to leave their everyday life or find a teacher.
Please RSVP by email:

11/19/2017: Poems. Prayers, and a Paper Shredder

Sunday 11:45 am, KUUF Admin Room, Joseph Bednarik – New from Adult RE!

Poems, Prayers, and a Paper Shredder

with Joseph Bednarik

Sunday, November 19

11:45 am – 1:30 pm

KUUF Conference Room

A healthy spirit of play is one of the deepest taproots of creativity and an essential nutrient for religious practice. This lively and generative workshop engages classical writing exercises, mostly borrowed from the surrealists, to engage our imaginations and intellects and create, in real time, poems, prayers, and billions of synapses firing in unique directions. Ritual use of an on-site paper shredder will remind us all to pay dear attention to our heartbeats and each other–Joseph Bednarik


Registration is required — reserve your spot early as class size is limited.  We will be advertising to the public if the limit is not reached by KUUF members and friends.    Register by email at

Joseph Bednarik will speak this Sunday. He is Co-Publisher of Copper Canyon Press, a non-profit literary publisher that believes “poetry is vital to language and living”. ( Joseph also serves as Assistant to the Ministers in the Pulpit at Quimper Unitarian Universalist Fellowship in Port Townsend. He speaks at KUUF monthly, and we are honored by his presence and eloquent words.

2017-2018 UUA Common Read

Discussion dates as follows.  Both are after the service on Sundays.

Centering:  January 28  after Sunday service

Daring Democracy:  March 25 after Sunday service

Get your 2017-18 UUA Common Read books at KUUF while they last!

Two books have been announced as the 2017-18 UUA Common Read.  UU Congregations all over the country will be reading and discussing these books.  Adult RE will lead KUUF discussions early in 2018.

Centering: Navigating Race, Authenticity, and Power in Ministry, edited by Mitra Rahnema (Skinner House, 2017), centers the stories, analysis, and insights of a number of Unitarian Universalist religious leaders of color as they explore how racial identity is made both visible and invisible in Unitarian Universalist communities.   (Foyer price:  $16.00)

Daring Democracy: Igniting Power, Meaning, and Connection for the America We Wantby Frances Moore Lappé and Adam Eichen, (Beacon Press, September 2017) lifts up the importance of democracy itself. It examines the anti-democracy movement that led to the Trump presidency, then offers a vision and call to action to save the democracy we thought we had and to take our civic life to a place it has never been.  (Foyer price:  $13.00)

In choosing two books, the UUA Common Read Committee noted that “the challenges, the call, and the opportunity of this moment in Unitarian Universalism and in the broader US American society are compelling. Unitarian Universalists must be prepared and willing to look inward, examining, exploring, and acting to dismantle white supremacy culture in our association, in our congregations and groups, and in ourselves.”

A limited supply of books is available on the foyer or at the UUA bookstore and other retail outlets.  Kindle versions are also available.    Daring Democracy may be available at Kitsap Regional Library later in the year.  Scholarships are available — if you have financial need, simply take a book, otherwise, please leave cash or check in the envelope provided.

08/27/2017: Bringing the UUA General Assembly to You

Sunday, 11:45 am, KUUF Sanctuary – Adult RE will screen Pianist Darrell Grant’s cantata “Step By Step: The Ruby Bridge Suite,” featuring the choirs of All Souls, DC, and First UU, Nashville, along with a 6-piece all-star jazz ensemble and renowned vocalist Marilyn Keller, performed at this year’s General Assembly in New Orleans.  Stay and celebrate the story of Ruby Bridges, the trailblazing African-American girl who, at age 6, integrated the New Orleans Public Schools in 1960. 

What adult religious exploration classes do you want to see happen?

Your Adult Religious Exploration Committee wants to know what classes you would like to see offered in the coming year.  Please take 6 minutes to record your preferences at  Rate your top 5 choices in three categories.  Let us know your preferred meeting time. 

Paper copies of the poll are available in the foyer. 

Thank you!  Your input is appreciated.

06/11/2017: Adult RE: Spirit in Practice – Spiritual Partnerships

Sunday, 11:45 am, KUUF – Admin Room

Spirit in Practice was created by the UUA to help Unitarian Universalists develop regular disciplines, or practices, of the spirit—practices that help you connect with the sacred ground of your being, however, you understand it. Spirit in Practice affirms religious diversity while seeking unity in our communal quest for meaning and wholeness. Whether participants follow a path they identify as Humanist, Jewish, Christian, Pagan, Theist, Atheist, Agnostic, Mystic, and/or any of the other paths we follow in our diverse congregations, the Spirit in Practice workshops offer a forum for learning, sharing, and growth that can enrich our faith journeys.

KUUF members Selene Patterson and Karen Leader Scott are co-facilitating.  Need childcare?  Please let us know two weeks ahead.

May 7:  Introduction and Personal Spiritual Practices

May 21:  Communal Worship Practices

June 11:  Spiritual Partnerships

June 18:  Mind Practices

Please register now by emailing or calling the office:  360-377-4724

04/01/2017: Nonviolent Communication Training

Saturday, 10:00a.m. KUUF – Sanctuary 

Communicating for Effectiveness, Clarity, and Connection based on Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication.
Sat., April 1st, 2017, 10-5, Kitsap Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Based on Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication
Sat., April 1st, 2017, 10-5, Kitsap Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Whether its larger issues in our country or communication in our families and communities, we need communication skills to be able to reach each other when we have differences, that reach across the divide, and we need ways to stay connected and find solutions that work for all.  Not an easy task.  That’s why we need to explore ways to speak and listen in ways that lead to more connection, understanding, and effectiveness.  After all, what we say may change the world!
Dr. Marshall Rosenberg identified a specific approach to communicating — called Nonviolent Communication (NVC) — that leads us to give from the heart, connecting us in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish without giving up the values that we cherish. He spent many years sharing this in some of the most war-torn areas of the world.
While studying the factors that affect our ability to communicate and stay compassionate, Marshall Rosenberg was struck by the crucial role that language can play. While we may not consider the way we talk to be “violent,” words often lead to hurt and pain toward ourselves or to others. That’s because so many of us have been trained to speak in terms of moralistic judgments, evaluations, and labels that disconnect us from compassion.
At this one day training, we will use various exercises to practice the fundamentals of Nonviolent Communication and apply the language and consciousness to understanding ourselves, listening, and speaking.
You’ll leave with:
– An understanding of what motivates your own and others behavior
– An increased awareness of what you want and how to move towards it
– A map to be able to increase your ability to empathize with others so you can listen to anyone and have a greater understanding
– A way to speak your truth with love that will increase the likelihood of being heard and contributing to collaboration whether it’s feedback, gratitude, or your honesty.
– A short form to express appreciation (not praise) that will be more likely to be taken in.
– a group of co-learners
– having had some fun!
Free to members (donations accepted). Up to $100 for nonmembers (public). Donate what you can available.
Questions contact Marcia Christen
Thank you
warmly, Marcia